JUST HIT PLAY
Okay so whilst I understand that it’s not nice for Damon to reject Elena’s friendship when she wants him in her life and wants to make them work in some way, even if it’s just as friends, I can also understand why Damon feels he can’t be ‘just her friend’ because he feels that strongly for her that just being around her is more painful than letting her go completely.
It’s not selfish of Damon to want to save himself from more pain. If the roles were reversed and it was Elena saying she couldn’t be just friends with Damon and she needed him out of her life then that wouldn’t be selfish either.
You have a duty to yourself to take care emotionally and if you physically feel you cannot deal with a break up why is the other person’s need for you more valid than your need to remove yourself from the situation?
I’m not saying either’s feelings should be prioritized. They both have valid needs and it’s a tricky situation to be in because they love each other so much but they’ve hit a road block.
They can’t be together in the way the other person needs.
With Elena she wants to make them revert back to the way they were before they got together. She wants them back in that good place where they were together in everything but romantically.
With Damon he just wants it over. He feels it’s over, he’s lost hope, so instead of clinging on and dragging it out and potentially hurting himself and Elena further he’s deciding to completely sever ties.
Neither are actually dealing with their situation or expressing fully everything they feel and want but they’re avoiding in different ways.
I’m also going to add that this is literally the first time Damon has ever said he can’t be there with Elena. Every other time he has swallowed his pain, ignored his heartbreak and gotten on with being whatever Elena needed regardless of how much it was taking a toll on him.
It’s not wrong of him to say that he cannot do it anymore. His relationship is not just about being there for Elena, it’s also about being there for himself.
It is horrible for both of them.
Neither’s pain is more significant and neither’s decision is more valid or less selfish than the others.
Elena is selfishly asking Damon to be there for her regardless of his feelings. Damon is selfishly asking Elena to stay away from him and let him leave her life regardless of her feelings.
THEY ARE BOTH IN PAIN. THEY ARE BOTH TRYING TO DEAL WITH IT IN DIFFERENT WAYS. THEY ARE NOT WRONG AND THEY ARE NOT RIGHT.
They are messy.
They are complicated.
They are real.
And that’s why they’re both so broken.
Damon is so going to get pulled into the hell dimension tho.
Honest opinion, friends. Considering what I like, should I watch this TVD episode or will I be bored/disappointed?
So me calling Delena and Steroline as endgame since the pilot has merit now?
L O L
Did Enzo actually call Stefan vanilla?
Oh man, this show.